Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Cruising through Alzheimer’s: a rant about U, Me aur Hum

[Looking at all the positive reviews this film has got, I have a feeling I'm going to be lynched for this post. Never mind - at least it'll balance out all the times I get asked "HOW could you write good things about that dreadful book?! Did you have some kind of arrangement with the author?" The one thing this post should make clear is that there was no exchange of monies between the Devgans and me]

Ajay Devgan’s directorial debut U, Me aur Hum is one of the most grating and poorly written films I’ve seen in months. This is two bad movies for the price of one: the first half is a shrill, overwrought comedy full of insufferable characters (I yearned for the relative tastefulness of the Kader Khan-Shakti Kapoor tracks in 1980s films) and redeemed only by some nice cruise footage; then it changes tack midway to become an equally shrill, overwrought drama about the effect of Alzheimer’s on a sufferer and her loved ones. But predictably, having decided to take on a “serious” issue (perhaps because of the respectability tag), it simply cops out in the end.

The story begins with a young (and fabulously rich) psychiatrist named Ajay (Devgan) goofing about on a cruise vacation with four friends (two couples, whose tiresome shenanigans and vulgar jokes get an astonishing amount of screen time). When bar-girl Piya (Kajol) asks Ajay “Anything you desire, sir?” and he replies “Yes. You”, we must obediently accept the film’s word that “true love” has struck. (Shortly after this, Ajay jumps on to the bar to announce that all drinks are on him, and a bump-and-grind song sequence follows, featuring back-up dancers presumably hired from Devgan’s recent films like Cash.) He woos Piya in increasingly silly ways. She reciprocates. There is a misunderstanding. They part ways. She comes back to him. He’s waiting for her, with a house that’s done up entirely in white (her favourite colour) and a dog named Mr White, and they get married (I mean Ajay and Piya). Strangely, she fails to do the first thing any conscientious spouse would have done – that is, give marching orders to his quartet of moronic pals.

Then it turns out that Piya has Alzheimer’s, and on this note the Intermission sign appears: “You can go to the snack bar for your Dispirin now.”

U, Me aur Hum is consistently wrong-footed, its tone lurching (sometimes within the same scene) from unfunny screwball comedy to intense psychological horror to cutesy romance. (The bouncy song “Saheli jaisa Saiyyan”, incongruously deposited in the middle of a high-drama scene late in the film, exists for no reason other than to provide TV channels a standard romantic music video.) The screenplay is littered with convoluted faux-philosophical discussions (never use one sentence when you can use five, is the motto), homilies, spin-offs from corny Internet jokes and general vagueness. (“Dukh ki baat yeh hai ke isme khushi ki baat nahin hai,” says a doctor, making a bittersweet announcement.) No premium is placed on political correctness either: in Ajay’s office, his receptionist passes him the phone with the words “Doctor, someone wants to talk to you. Serious mental case lag raha hai”.

Personally, I don’t think this film deserves measured analysis – I would have been perfectly happy to do a jokey review recording some of the unkind thoughts that went through my mind during the cruise scenes (e.g. “The appearance of a deadly iceberg would conclusively prove the existence of God” or “Now would be a good time for the Jaws shark to leap out of the ocean and into this 12-storey boat”), or to speculate that Ajay and Kajol might be Clark Kent and Superman respectively, given the camera’s odd refusal to show them in the same frame in the ship scenes. But since U, Me aur Hum touches (however facilely) on a serious issue, and since many people believe that putting down such movies amounts to being “insensitive” (as if making fun of a badly made film were the same thing as making fun of Alzheimer’s), I feel almost obliged to make a few considered points. So here goes, and the hell with spoiler alerts:

- Given that the story is about a relationship deepening and maturing in the face of adversity, a strange thing happens in the last few scenes (which should be preserved in a film museum as the definitive word on paying lip service and then chickening out). After much soul-searching, Ajay has made the difficult decision to take Piya home and look after her himself, rather than leave her in a care facility. “I promised her that we would go on a cruise to celebrate our 25th anniversary,” he tells his friends, “and I intend to keep that promise.”

This is very heartwarming, but at this point the film (which has already spent oodles of time on buffoonery and annoying supporting characters) simply decides to wind up. For all the preaching about your responsibilities towards those you love, not the slightest effort is made to engage with the difficulties and adjustments that a couple living together in the shadow of such a disease must face (they're a nuclear family, he's a working man who needs to be out of the house most of the time, her condition has nearly resulted in the accidental death of their child, and she is subject to mood swings and hysteria). Instead, it fast-forwards more than two decades ahead to reassure us that this made-for-each-other couple did in fact manage that 25th anniversary cruise together. (In these scenes, I got the distinct impression that the anniversary is the only thing that really matters and that the intervening years of these characters’ lives are mere background detail.)

Further, the middle-aged Ajay has clearly made the most of a bad situation – as he tells fellow passengers listening to their love story, he gets to “patao” his wife afresh nearly every day (because she keeps forgetting who he is, or how they got together), and then there are those “bonus” days where she remembers everything and all is normal. When he finishes the story (to the moist-eyed applause of the other vacationers), it turns out that this was one of those bonus days: Piya, who had been listening to the story as if it was new to her, was only pretending to have forgotten him. Voila. What a warm, fuzzy way to wrap things up. Starry-eyed couples everywhere will be wishing that one of them gets Alzheimer's – it sounds so much more exciting than your regular relationship, which dies painfully within a few months since neither of the partners ever forgets anything.

- Technically speaking, there are moments that betray a lack of cinematic common sense. Take the lengthy sequence where Kajol places her baby in the bathtub with the water running, goes out of the room and then zones out – distracted by the sight of a lizard stalking an insect on the wall, she forgets about her infant, leaving him in mortal danger. This is intercut with shots of Ajay reaching home and making his way upstairs; the house attendant chatting with a friend at the door, unaware of what’s happening inside; the family dog barking loudly; the water level slowly rising above the baby’s head.

Viewed in isolation, this is actually a well-constructed sequence straight out of the how-to-do-suspense textbook. Built around the question “will the child be saved in time?”, it demands a certain emotional investment from the viewer, and the cross-cutting is skillfully enough done. But looked at in context it’s simply gratuitous and unnecessarily prolonged – because, you see, in the scene before this one, we have already seen the baby being brought to the hospital, treated and revived. The bathtub scene is a flashback that is shown after the doctor asks Ajay what happened. So there really wasn’t any suspense to build in the first place. It’s an example of a first-time director trying too hard to experiment (with chronology, in this case) and abandoning basic sense in the process.

But I’m getting way too analytical now. The eventual message of U, Me aur Hum, and it's one that's hard to argue with, is that life is basically a series of great cruises with a bit of Alzheimer’s thrown in to add some grimness to the mix. This means that Star Cruises, which is one of the film’s advertising partners, has got the best deal out of the project. (The worst deal is reserved for Devgan and Kajol’s real-life children, who will grow up to watch the most embarrassing home movie ever.)

P.S. Anyone interested in a list of the five scenes I actually liked in this film, feel free to email.

P.P.S. Over at Ultrabrown, a commenter describes what the Farrelly Brothers might have done with this material. Now that's one film I'd love to watch.


  1. Very funny post, as always. I'm tempted to watch these movies purely for the pleasure of seeing something you'd pointed out in your review and screaming, "Hey, look! That's what Jai Arjun had meant when he said..."

  2. Oh I so agree! I think the movie was extremely choppy- no smoothness or continuity.
    Also, I hated the "moronic pals".

    Also, Ajay decided to send his wife to the care facility after he has a 'bad' sex session- THAT is what's the final straw (I got bugged with that- it wasn't the baby bit that got him, but the no sex!)

    Worst of all, the hall here (in the US) had NO intermission, since the movie is longer than most US movies. So didn't even get the disprin!

  3. Jabberwock,Offtopic question.
    I have tried to procure a copy of the movie Urf Professor for a while now,but in vain.
    Have you seen it?

  4. I suppose, you are one too. Have a look.

  5. hey your review is more interesting than the film.....you should try your hand at direction some day.

  6. Funny as usual. Loved this part...

    "Starry-eyed couples everywhere will be wishing that one of them gets Alzheimer's – it sounds so much more exciting than your regular relationship, which dies painfully within a few months, since neither of the partners ever forgets anything."

    the way these films sentimentalize real-life disabilities is so offensive and yet it is so hard to communicate this to a lot of people who are so readily moved by even the most facile of such attempts.

  7. Phew - all the glowing reviews out there had me wondering if I had indeed seen the same U, me aur Hum as those reviewers had. Jai Arjun Singh reflects my opinion (albeit in a much funnier way) of the movie. Yaay :-D!

  8. Rahul 1: No, haven't seen it - have only vaguely heard of it, actually.

    Rahul 2: thanks, but as critics of critics have so often pointed out, it's much easier to write about bad films than to actually make them!

    A fan of Baradwaj: yup, I'm a BR groupie too. Saw that review earlier and had an email discussion about the film with Baradwaj. Nothing major - he made the point that it isn't trying to be an Alzheimer's film, that it uses the disease as a Macguffin to explore relationships. To which I replied that I didn't think it worked as a relationship film either, I couldn't care for most of the characters, and that the pacing was too uneven for me.

  9. Unmana: thanks, but I hope you're not really screaming my name out in a crowded movie hall?!

    Alok: I know, intention usually counts for way more than actual execution. I've noticed that's true for a lot of emotional scenes in mainstream Hindi films (and TV serials for that matter). All a film has to do to get a certain type of viewer moist-eyed is merely touch on a tragic scenario (never mind that it could be dreadfully over-written and embarrassingly acted).

  10. Ok I haven't watched the movie nor do I intend to. But from your description, it sounds like another movie that I couldn't stand:
    50 First Dates. Watched it?

  11. thanks...i only wish i had read this review before i watched the movie :(

  12. The story sounds quite similar to 'Notebook'; which also got great reviews, but was again a terrible movie!

  13. Neha: Haven't seen The Notebook, though I know it's directed by Nick Cassavetes, whose film She's So Lovely I liked moderately (and who is the son of John Cassavetes, a great independent director of the 1960s, and Gena Rowlands, a wonderful actress).

    Lalbadshah: no, haven't seen 50 First Dates.

    I think the movie was extremely choppy

    Rachna: hmm, maybe they confused the film with the ship?

  14. Your review actually confirms what the pre-thoughts I've had about the film after watching the promos. Good ol' Ajay Devgan just tried to fall back on good ol' values with a holier than thou attitude i guess

  15. Even Baradwaj Rangan can have a difference of opinion. So anyways I agree with you that the movie was a big bore and probably just off the cuff when it needed to build on its characters. I was not too amused by Devgan's buddies and their stupid jokes. I am sure that very few such characters actually exist.

  16. I am sure that very few such characters actually exist.

    Shwet: I can't share your optimism. I'm sure many such characters do exist in the real world - but I have a problem with having to watch their antics for three hours.

  17. In answer to your question: no, no! I said " I'm tempted to..." but on the whole I'm thankful that you help me steer clear of them (though the promos have usually managed to put me off anyway). And I'm very grateful to you for introducing me to Johnny Gaddaar. (By which I mean your review was one reason I went to see the movie.)

  18. What gets my goat is the hypocrisy of making a film (supposedly) about a serious issue like mental disease and its effect on a marriage and then not letting even a HINT of it escape in your posters/promos, which all look like touched up posters of Kaho Na Pyaar Hai with older characters. What should be the USP of the film, for surely we have seen enough frothy romances between Kajol and various co-actors, is virtually hidden till the film releases. Only Bollywood can do this, really.

  19. Agree with your views on the first half. The four jokers and the dialogue writer really spoiled the mood bigtime.

    But the second half worked for me to such an extent that I was willing to forget the first half's inadequacies. I know am in minority here but i actually liked the film.

    Was fun to read your take though !

  20. Rarely is it that I go and watch movies after reading their reviews, but this movie just a look at their trailers and the title made sure that I kept my distance from it. Good post about the movie though where is the section on the funny comments of the audience here ?

    After watching an excellent movie (The Lives of others) where the couple sitting next to me made the whole experience much more funnier than I imagined it would be(blogged here) I am wondering whether the funnier comments come up in movies like U, Me aur Hum or the ones like Brokeback Mountain.

  21. Nice review....as always! I felt the unsubtle references to Nepalis and gays was very distasteful. Guess the filmmakers wanted some free publicity out of controversies but their ploy seems failed!

  22. ah! the problem with such thrashing reviews is that now i have to watch the movie to see how well you've written it ;-). your reviews are invariably interesting.


  23. Yes. I fully agree. And have my own views on it too.

    Where are the brains?

  24. The lizard scene looks like a direct lift from a mallu movie called "thanmathra" incidentally also dealing with alzheimer to the husband...think devgun saw the movie and twisted the plot a bit for his directorial debut (thanmathra happened to be a well crafted movie with mohanlal as the lead)

  25. Thank you, really, for the one sensible review I've seen of this movie. I think the movie revealed more about Ajay and his prejudices than anything about Alzheimer's, relationships or even cruise ships.
    I was hoping you'd touch on the one issue that totally got my goat: on how "Doctor" Ajay is constantly making value judgements about the situation of his patients and their care-givers and getting away with it. He tells the lady early on that she's totally out of line with admitting her husband in a professional care facility. What if she is unable to take care of him by herself? What if she, say, and to be representative of a 'typical Indian household', has to take care of two children and her parents/parents-in-law and hold down a job, and all this is impossible to manage with giving an ill husband the 24/7 care he needs. How is a DOCTOR making the judgement that she should not send him somewhere? What is wrong if she is "doing it for herself, for her benefit, for her convenience"? And then later there's this family that WANTS to take care of their ill father at home and he insists on them sending him away. And then after his painful soliloquy he brings his wife back. Any person who's actually a caregiver for a serious mentally ill person in the family and watching this will now feel horribly guilty about putting them in a professional care facility - is that the whole point of this movie?
    If this movie becomes widely watched, Ajay Devgun would've single handed-ly moved the still nascent movement in India to treat mental illnesses with professional treatment, back by twenty years.

  26. There you go again, Jabberwork, saving our souls from another tortuous experience. Well done , my friend! Keep these reviews coming so we save our sanity (and money)from 3-hour turkeys..(I wonder what price you have to pay so we can be saved the trouble?? ha ha )

  27. The name of the film itself is cringe/nausea inducing. How can one even start watching it to decide if it's good or bad? I agree that there are people who like such sweet mushy titles and films. But really, you would expect 13 year old girls to think up and like such film titles...

  28. Your post was really funny!
    And yeah, I do want to challenge you to come up with the 5 scenes worth liking!:)

  29. Ha ha Ha...Your uncanny ability to shred through the movie is amazing...

    Anyways, I think I was thinking on the similar lines in atleast two areas: More and more wives pushing ther husbands for a cruise and movie coming to a sudden, abrupt end, without showing how these 20 odd years were spent living with someone with Alzhiemers. On the contrary, Devgan could have taken a cue from Taare Zameen Par -Considering it talks about another medical condition, which people are sensitive towards...

    Anyways, hope Devgan gets the message and doesn't create a library of similar movies for his childeren....


  30. This seems to be a trend now, conveniently rip off an obscure Korean movie and none will be the wiser

  31. Hi
    I agree with everything you said...the movie was a disappointement

    I have seen a Malayalam movie on Alzheimers disease and Mohanlal portrayed the character with great perfection and he had an amazing and realistic script to back-up his acting skills

    U, Me aur hum - made no sense to me at all - it lacks proper research

  32. I think the positive reviews this dastardly film got are a result of the "wannabe" syndrome. Anything that's offbeat or deals with a serious issue (Alzheimer's in this case) must be given good reviews, or the reviewer opens him/herself to accusations of being art-illiterate. Similar to some people who gush over art even when they don't see what the fuss is about.

  33. "he tells fellow passengers listening to their love story, he gets to “patao” his wife afresh nearly every day (because she keeps forgetting who he is, or how they got together), and then there are those “bonus” days where she remembers everything and all is normal."

    Flashback - 50 first dates !! I haven't seen this Devgan movie but I think at least this whole idea is from 50 first dates. Just stating what I found obvious.

  34. Hey look..at least this movie is much more romantic and happy-ending than Titanic :)

  35. I have watched this movie 4 times. A very movie indeed.It was Ajay Devgan's direction in which both of them acted superbly. The alzheimer disease was shown as one of the key factor in deciding the flow of story. But I was really disappointed to see the box office collection of the movie.