Via Amit, a link to an excellent piece by Mrinal Pande: Busting the myth of the sacred mother, about the very one-sided portrayals of motherhood (as an unequivocally hallowed and rewarding experience) that have been handed down through human history. Well worth reading for a number of reasons, and I find Pande’s views on women writers interesting since she herself is the daughter of the renowned Hindi writer Shivani, who balanced her personal and professional lives at a time when this was much more of a struggle for Indian women. (Incidentally Mrinal’s sister Ira wrote this wonderful book about their mother.)
Very pressed for time just now, but I’ll try to update this post with accounts of some of the discussions I’ve had with women friends (both those who are mothers and those who never intend to have children) on the subject. Meanwhile, here’s an old review I wrote of Lionel Shriver’s We Need to Talk about Kevin, a very powerful book about a woman who just can’t bring herself to love her firstborn child.