tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post114153593967196441..comments2024-03-27T14:57:37.031+05:30Comments on Jabberwock: The divorced woman as easy preyJabberwockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10210195396120573794noreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-302408338797804372018-03-17T17:47:46.789+05:302018-03-17T17:47:46.789+05:30I want to share a testimony of my life to every on...I want to share a testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband, i love him so much we have been married for 5 years now with two kids. my lover told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I met my friend Miss Florida and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr Mack who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 3days. My friend ask me to contact Dr Mack. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods of his fore-fathers will fight for me. He told me by three days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After three day my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, I was surprise when I saw him and he started crying for forgiveness. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr Mack on any problem in this world, he is very nice, here is his contact [Dr_mack@yahoo.com], He is the best spell caster.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08407578870851039378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-47005279872290744922013-03-08T08:39:20.569+05:302013-03-08T08:39:20.569+05:30Hello Every one out here!!
I want to share my test...Hello Every one out here!!<br />I want to share my testimony and my happiness with you all in this site, last year my husband left me for another woman in his working place and he abandon me and my 2kids, everything was so hard for me because i love him so much, so i saw the testimonies of Dr.Magbu how he has been helping ladies in getting there husband back so i contacted him and he help me to cast a return spell for my husband and in 3 days my husband left the other woman and he come back to me with so much love and caring. i will never forget this help that Dr.Magbu gave to me and my children.angelanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-85571637150271589002011-08-24T12:32:19.917+05:302011-08-24T12:32:19.917+05:30Hey, I was googling for something and came across ...Hey, I was googling for something and came across your post. Well, I was googling "divorced Indian women". I recently got divorced and I am still so young. My husband is gay and still the societal pressures and "waht-will-happen-in-future" is what kept me so long from making my decision. I am well-educated, beautiful, smart and intelligent but oh well!this is how our society is. Kudos to your mom for being brave and standing up for herself. I have been recently approached by men who were always nothing but good friends during the time I was married. It threw me berserk seeing their changed behavior towards me. I have now begun to accept it is different now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-24986659426526183042011-05-11T15:04:30.046+05:302011-05-11T15:04:30.046+05:30Hi
I am a British Indian, divorced in 2007, I am ...Hi<br /><br />I am a British Indian, divorced in 2007, I am moving to Australia to start a new life. Life after divorce has been very difficult experiencing many of the issues you described. Thank you for sharing...it's good to know that I am not alone in this journey..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-34559408360469227042010-04-17T20:29:25.458+05:302010-04-17T20:29:25.458+05:30Yes, I struck me as soon as I pushed the "pub...Yes, I struck me as soon as I pushed the "publish the comment" button, that it may have more to do your impatience/contempt with people who treat pets as accessories. And I was right then!<br /><br />On a related thought: how do you feel when a virtual stranger (like me) can read into/predict your thoughts based only only on having followed posts over time?<br /><br />Anyway, talking of pets, remember the post you had written about a stray cat who had walked in and walked out of your life. Well, that was some solid piece of writing. Did you try to get it published in some literary magazine/anthology because it surely deserves to be exposed to an audience larger than just a blogging community (however popular it may be)?Nimit Kathuriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04273752834403114009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-20351233809383113102010-04-17T18:49:37.984+05:302010-04-17T18:49:37.984+05:30Nimit: if you're talking about that one senten...Nimit: if you're talking about that one sentence, okay, I admit to it being judgemental in a limited way. I don't like it when people who aren't serious animal lovers keep (and eventually neglect) pets just for personal entertainment. Have seen generations of dogs in that house looking very morose.<br /><br />Middle class - no real opinion. If I use the term I use it in an abstract way to denote a certain set of traits: conservatism about morality, for example. I know many people who are very wealthy or very poor but whom I'd describe as middle-class in this sense.Jabberwockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210195396120573794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-41331314760599619752010-04-17T18:34:05.615+05:302010-04-17T18:34:05.615+05:30I am sure you have nothing but sympathy and respec...I am sure you have nothing but sympathy and respect for the lady. And, yes of course I did read what you had to say about her in the i/v. That is why it surprised me even more. What I am referring to is the actual part of the post. This:<br /><br /><i>they just keep getting dogs to fill the empty spaces in their lives.</i><br /><br />And any thoughts/links/books (is the Pavan Varma book any good?) on the second question?Nimit Kathuriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04273752834403114009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-51683235036504356282010-04-17T17:56:44.614+05:302010-04-17T17:56:44.614+05:30Nimit: very surprised you see any trace of judgeme...Nimit: very surprised you see any trace of judgementalism here - I have nothing but sympathy and respect for the lady. (The bit about her looking tired and careworn is a very straightforward recording of how she does look.)<br /><br />Also, I hope you noted what I said about her in the BlogAdda interview.Jabberwockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210195396120573794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-30773260916237001482010-04-17T17:25:49.206+05:302010-04-17T17:25:49.206+05:30Got to this post through the BlogAdda i/v.
Don...Got to this post through the BlogAdda i/v.<br /><br />Don't worry, I am not into the "group-hugging" thing, but I have one thing to say and one to ask.<br /><br />1) Reading the P.S., it struck me that you are being too judgmental/harsh on Ritika Aunty. Of course, it's your right/prerogative to be so, since it's your post but chances are you have no idea about the real situation.<br /><br />2) One doubt that re-surged after reading "Black Muddy River"'s comment (link given in his/her comment): what is middle class?<br /><br />I have posed this question to many people but have at best got only vague responses (even in a consumer behavior class!).Nimit Kathuriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04273752834403114009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-30266720464666243262009-08-28T12:02:00.517+05:302009-08-28T12:02:00.517+05:30I was almost too naive to think that this never ha...I was almost too naive to think that this never happened. It was inspiring to hear that your mother was candid with you when this happened to her even though you were small and to see that you have brought the same courage to your life by writing about it here. <br /><br />Thanks for writing your post.Rakeshnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-35837454781059107352008-06-27T15:39:00.000+05:302008-06-27T15:39:00.000+05:30I really admire your honesty. I understand how dif...I really admire your honesty. I understand how difficult it is to talk about such matters.<BR/><BR/>My Parents got divorced about a year ago. Instead of being supportive, people reacted horribly towards my mother in particular. Being Asian as well, it didn't help. My mother was shunned from her usual social circles and people treated her like she had some sort of contagious disease. I was shocked at how insecure and shallow other women were. Like you, men just began to prey on her and it was disgusting, she was disgusted.<BR/><BR/>Having made such observations, i was wondering what your thoughts, do you feel divorced women are still stigmatised or are they in a more powerful position, able to stand on their feet without rushing back into a relationship?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-61612910974699557632008-06-11T12:16:00.000+05:302008-06-11T12:16:00.000+05:30nice postagree with zakintosh totally. Rigid views...nice post<BR/><BR/>agree with zakintosh totally. Rigid views like Nitin's are behind the persecution of single/divorced/widowed women, that is seen. As long as retort was by way of brawns women had no chance but with brains they have their options. ultimately it comes down to the person, and her likes. On the issue of everyone meant to be in pairs, why so? We come solo and we go solo. So what's the point? Yes relationships makes life fun but its not necessarily thru' marriage alone, bonding with others in society at levels other than sexually is much more satisfying- something called unconditional love which contemplative animals like humans are endowed with. Also , in consideration to the male species, overtures are possible but a strict rebuff is enought to stop it , as also mentioned in the post. That's all. How should others opinion about yourself affect you?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-39522528777659843642008-05-29T10:42:00.000+05:302008-05-29T10:42:00.000+05:30Jai, Nice meeting youI walked into your blog while...Jai, <BR/><BR/>Nice meeting you<BR/><BR/>I walked into your blog while looking for some material on divorce experiences...something to do with a write up...i loved the way you wrote it and all my empathies on your experiences...<BR/><BR/>i hope to read the rest of your blog posts some time...<BR/><BR/>SuneethaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-44863491409462246472008-01-24T14:24:00.000+05:302008-01-24T14:24:00.000+05:30Hey, I was doing some random googling and ! came a...Hey, I was doing some random googling and ! came across ur post...!!!! And it really gave me something positive, so thought will leave a comment here.<BR/>I am young woman with the thriving career, financial security and all that. I have been married for 9 months now and my marriage is almost on the rocks.<BR/>I say ‘almost’ because we aren’t giving up just yet, but yeah it does seem like we may be walking down that road. <BR/>Somewhere between the petty domestic fights, we seem to have lost most of what got us together in the first place. And sometimes divorce seems like a good idea, at least it will relieve us of the constant emotional stress this marriage seems to be laying on us.<BR/><BR/>The scary part is that I don want a divorce mostly because of what everyone will say, think, and tell me!!!! I dread having to hearing my parents tell me that I ought to think of myself as lucky because my husband “lets” me work, or that my life is incomplete without a man and kids and who will marry me again!!!! I dread having to tell my coworkers (who have no concept of space) why my marriage failed and dread even more the instant judgement they are sure to make!!! I dread above all that my friends (some of whom are in difficult marriages themselves) will think of me as selfish!!! <BR/><BR/>But hey, ur post gave me something positive , am not quite sure what…. Maybe it was a feeling that other women have been through this before, or maybe it was a feeling that not everyone out there will judge me … but something definitely positive…>!!!! Thanks for posting!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-56999243967342539322008-01-21T16:29:00.000+05:302008-01-21T16:29:00.000+05:30Hi Jai,I came across your post. I am in a deli ma,...Hi Jai,<BR/><BR/>I came across your post. I am in a deli ma, I am in love with a girl who is divorced. I'll tell you the story in brief.<BR/><BR/>I joined a company as an analyst, the same day another girl joined and she joined as an analyst too. It was like love at first sight, and to my surprise we both had to share same cubicle. I started chatting with her and this continued for some 8 months, I developed special feelings. she knew that I am after her and I am in love and she also had feelings for me. I formally proposed her one day when I asked her out for a date and she constantly said that there are certain things in life which is not possible. I could not understand it, I asked her and she refused. later one day I said I am going to tell my parents about you, she immediately said, look honey I know you love me but still I need to tell you something before and after that if you think you should talk then go ahead. next day I was busy with work and she too was busy, in the evening she went a bit early and after some time I got an sms from her which said I have sent you a mail. I read her mail and I cried the entire night. she wrote about her marriage some two years back which lasted for less than two months.<BR/>Now its almost a month since she mailed me and we still work in the same cubicle and I still love her. I am ready to accept the rose with thorns, but I am not sure how much I'll have to bleed. I think you would be in a position to give me an answer to what I should do now. <BR/>Please write to Teddy.ravi@gmail.com .<BR/>For privacy purpose I am not disclosing my identity, please understand my situation and respond.<BR/>Many ThanksAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-14761281558417644002007-12-25T20:27:00.000+05:302007-12-25T20:27:00.000+05:30excellent post on several levels ... but mainly be...excellent post on several levels ... but mainly because it is personal and honest.<BR/><BR/>@nitin: "never" is a very big word and, sooner or later gets, proved wrong. more and more, however slowly, the views are changing. a few years ago this would not even have come up for public discussion. not many women would have added to the comments, either. and being 'single' is not as unnatural as you imagine ... nature does not produce people in pairs. Censurious comments like this make it difficult for those who chose to remain single (or have to remain single) for numerous reasons.<BR/><BR/>It is an extension of this kind of thinking that made widows victims. And the fact that the whole ethos is created by 'males' is apparent in the fact that widowers carry no stigma ... otherwise single men carry it much less than women.<BR/><BR/>The male superirity you subscribe to was in an era when brawns were worth more than brains.Zakintoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16878739501457502905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-84507318359068930282007-10-05T01:23:00.000+05:302007-10-05T01:23:00.000+05:30People who choose to be single are cowards because...People who choose to be single are cowards because they don't have the guts & patience to make a relation work. The easiest escape is to remain single be it after divorce or not getting married at all. <BR/><BR/>We have formed society but we forget that we are still the part of animal kingdom. Male species by nature are aggressive, physically stronger and their role is to provide security to their family. A single female is psychologically not considered a part of a family who is not "protected" by a male.<BR/><BR/>No body marry for a divorce but if al options to sort out the matter die, only then a couple should choose it. Majority of women have "dreamy" expectations out of a marriage and now that women are in jobs, they live under a notion of "self dependent" and men become a secondary option and so does the marriage. Being self dependent "financially" is good but making it an ego issue is un-called for.<BR/><BR/>Why do women try to compare to men?? what for? Why don't women believe in their own identity rather than compare with men. <BR/><BR/>A lioness kills her prey for her family while most of the time lion only relaxes but then lioness leaves a lion because she is the one who "earns" for the family?? why she sticks to a lion? Why she does all the hard work to chase and make a kill while lion enjoys the meal in the end? <BR/><BR/>We humans have forgot the very basic survival instinct that remains deep down in our genes. We may call ourselves civilized but the truth is that the animal within us will always be alive.<BR/><BR/>Both men & women today have resorted to ego and it's clash is making the relation sour. Don't forget that when 2 individuals live together then differences are bound to come. We mistake to choose to be right rather than be happy.<BR/><BR/>To sum this up, then the concept of "single" doesn't exist in nature. Humans live in a family and the moment it cease to exist, the person is looked down upon. <BR/><BR/>No matter how many debates about social "enlightenment" happen, the concept of being single (both for men/women) will never be psychologically accepted.Nitin Vishwakarmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10443750654185140874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-81547167902435785672007-04-17T06:39:00.000+05:302007-04-17T06:39:00.000+05:30Women need to break through the silence of not sha...Women need to break through the silence of not sharing their own experiences with emotional predators so they can learn from each other how to protect themselves from the ever present problem of being men's flavor of the month, or the moment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-1166542899972255832006-12-19T21:11:00.000+05:302006-12-19T21:11:00.000+05:30Came across your blog..The post is plain, simple a...Came across your blog..<BR/>The post is plain, simple and forthright. And, the impression its made on you as a child speaks volumes as does the post. The behaviour, perceptions and apathy you've talked about is relevant even now..only its cloaked under the banner '21st century'.<BR/><BR/>With a sense of pride (am another like minded mom) would like to say, children raised by single moms are children nonetheless only more responsible and mature.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-1162552777935991242006-11-03T16:49:00.000+05:302006-11-03T16:49:00.000+05:30I came across this blog coloum quite accidently an...I came across this blog coloum quite accidently and I am struck by the volumes of people leading a single life. Our Indian society is not very kind to people leading a single life, they are very interfering by nature. Reading this article it gives an insight into the daily lives of single women struugling to lead a normal life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-1148265458130525752006-05-22T08:07:00.000+05:302006-05-22T08:07:00.000+05:30Jai, I happened on your blog by accident but am n...Jai,<BR/><BR/> I happened on your blog by accident but am now addicted to it. Being a divorced women myself your post hit very close to home. Also this problem is not only in our society but everywhere. Also another thing I noticed is that when a girl moves closely with a guy everyone(including the guy) thinks she is hitting on him(even if the girl is married) so I came to the conclusion that guys and girls can never be friends and am scared of talking to guys now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-1147625849195222932006-05-14T22:27:00.000+05:302006-05-14T22:27:00.000+05:30as a young working girl i really could identify wi...as a young working girl i really could identify with a lot of things u wrote in the post..its not only divorced women who face these things...in india any girl whos working successful andunattached is considered bold and "openminded" by guys...i have faced this things a lot............and i think its very commendable on your part to write this when it has happened to your own parent....My Unfinished Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17585327291812330305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-1144246284919564212006-04-05T19:41:00.000+05:302006-04-05T19:41:00.000+05:30Greatbong, Quiller Couch, falstaff, Pareshaan, Con...Greatbong, Quiller Couch, falstaff, Pareshaan, Confused... you are keeping great company, Jai. Not the best way to do your parents proud.:o)<BR/><BR/>Sorry if it hurt anyone, was only trying to lighten up this serious discussion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-1142224141703780802006-03-13T09:59:00.000+05:302006-03-13T09:59:00.000+05:30Completely unrelated. but there is a comment by so...Completely unrelated. but there is a comment by some one nicknamed akb.. somebody from ur previous office? I cant quite imagine him reading blogs and commenting on them tho.Janakihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06068622582534965333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-1141838164413432802006-03-08T22:46:00.000+05:302006-03-08T22:46:00.000+05:30Shamya: thanks dude! Needed something like that af...Shamya: thanks dude! Needed something like that after all the group-hugging...Jabberwockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210195396120573794noreply@blogger.com