tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post1602679510507291213..comments2024-03-18T19:46:10.130+05:30Comments on Jabberwock: Attending a north Indian wedding (as a baraati)Jabberwockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10210195396120573794noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-29175251970346306922010-03-08T05:55:03.218+05:302010-03-08T05:55:03.218+05:30LOL @ anonymous who got back at everyone by having...LOL @ anonymous who got back at everyone by having their wedding on time so everyone missed it!Amberdawnhttp://ambers-wedding.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-63033084802462880672008-03-17T04:49:00.000+05:302008-03-17T04:49:00.000+05:30oh gosh.. But but to be fair, dont forget a Southi...oh gosh.. <BR/><BR/>But but to be fair, dont forget a Southie reception where everyone files past the newly weds to take pics, not smile and move on... and no present...Swear, mine was like thatDr. Ally Critterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04191162451745534259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-66257832452225697402008-02-05T00:15:00.000+05:302008-02-05T00:15:00.000+05:30would you believe that my baraat reached before ev...would you believe that my baraat reached before even one member of my family had arrived the venue !! so it was a bunch of friends and me , the bride , watching the baraatis wait from the hotel room :)<BR/>and that was a punjabi wedding too!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-78125722057343371182008-01-12T13:38:00.000+05:302008-01-12T13:38:00.000+05:30I have had the pleasure of reaching venues on time...I have had the pleasure of reaching venues on time and not finding a sign of the bride's side or even a vague sign that it is a marriage venue.. the carpets, the chairs, the waiters... everything materialises out of nowhere in record time even after the time mentioned on cards.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-86411289806543167852007-12-26T20:10:00.000+05:302007-12-26T20:10:00.000+05:30I wrote something on a typical Tam-Brahm wedding a...I wrote something on <A HREF="http://jagadish.blogspot.com/2005/07/blast-from-past-typical-tam-brahm.html" REL="nofollow">a typical Tam-Brahm wedding</A> a few years ago.Jagadishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07945971736885159644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-74637456547743234532007-12-24T21:17:00.000+05:302007-12-24T21:17:00.000+05:30I once disrupted a Punj wedding in Calcutta by say...I once disrupted a Punj wedding in Calcutta by saying "come quick! there's a gang-bang on and leading a mob consisting of drooling bride's folk and baraatis to the garbage dump behind where the local dogs (plural) were having it off with the local bitch (singular). After that, I made a quick exit. <BR/>Revenge for the lack of meat! <BR/>DDAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-30626150080132660942007-12-24T17:59:00.000+05:302007-12-24T17:59:00.000+05:30Delayed reply to the anonymous Jai-hater:"btw the ...Delayed reply to the anonymous Jai-hater:<BR/><BR/>"btw the reason we dont serve meat on wedding day is because its a religious day ..we wont god to bless the union and be present there ..so the atmosphere has to be pure ..in case u forgot hinduism unlike other religions bans meat eating..."<BR/><BR/>I agree Jai has a poor attitude towards most things. But I don't. I'm Hindu. Bengali. And we don't celebrate anything without fish and mutton. The gods continue liking us, or disliking us, or at least ignoring us or showing indifference. Almost all Bengali marriages turn out as badly (or un-badly) as other marriages. So no go there....<BR/><BR/>Jai: This one took the cake - I was asked to spell 'weswegnj' - the longest yet.Black Muddy Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15955846722038215253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-66310355831873114452007-12-24T00:12:00.000+05:302007-12-24T00:12:00.000+05:30True... miss chickn too but then jahan 4 yaar mil...True... miss chickn too but then <BR/><BR/><I> jahan 4 yaar mil jaaye wahin raat ko guzaar </I> so i dont really care for the rest of the crowds... as long as there are come close knit friends around to share a laugh, ofcourse you can meet them at a bar too, thats a diff case.<BR/><BR/>And ya I agree you really dont want to leave with the baraat when they start of ... coz all the uncle logs will make you dance no matter how reluctant you are... man I've danced on the streets of jhumritilaiya as if on a Ganesh Visarjan !!!Blue Bikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03755240596399158968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-49257975416636779622007-12-23T09:00:00.000+05:302007-12-23T09:00:00.000+05:30Blue Bike: the answer to your query is implied in ...Blue Bike: the answer to your query is implied in the post. If I happen to reach the venue at the same time as the marauding uncles/horse/groom etc, then no problem, I'll go in at the same time. But no way I'm going to tie up to meet the silly dancing baraatis at the point where the commence dancing/walking towards the venue. <BR/><BR/>(At this point, I should mention that I don't go for many weddings - not more than one in two years if I can help it - and am not too interested in being around crowds when I do go. So the "bhaav nahin dega" bit isn't important. The main problem remains the lack of chicken.)Jabberwockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210195396120573794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-87483574458972495962007-12-23T04:54:00.000+05:302007-12-23T04:54:00.000+05:30Jabberwock ! One technical query: You went in as a...Jabberwock ! <BR/>One technical query: <BR/>You went in as a baraati , then how come you reached much before the Baraat !!!! <BR/><BR/>Always always always remember ... be it punjabi, gujarati, marathi or bihari wedding ( all four types pretty regularly attended by yours truly) baraati's should reach with the baraat... <I> warna koi bhaav nahi dega :P </I> <BR/><BR/>Now some interesting observations : <BR/>* Rural Bihari Baraats(Rajputs) are accompnied with crackers as well as air fire of live ammunition ( anybody from Motihari, Begusaray, Gaya, Palamu etc can confirm). Its considered a matter of pride to fire so many rounds through the shamiana that it cannot be reused.<BR/><BR/>* In UP,Bihar weddings the actual ceremony begins mostly after the gifts and photosessions and lasts through the night. I attended a friends brothers wedding once... almost all guests started leaving to their sleeping allotments but we being decent guests waited to *watch* the ceremony ... thats when grooms father came and said ... "Beta poori raat ka function hain ... aap log sone chale jaao" !!!! Only people left at the ceremony were the groom, bride, brides parents, grooms brother and sister in law !!! EVERYONE ELSE LEFT !!!Blue Bikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03755240596399158968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-82798591536687161472007-12-22T11:30:00.000+05:302007-12-22T11:30:00.000+05:30Dipali: at one of these weddings, we left our gift...Dipali: at one of these weddings, we left our gift with a lady who had been identified to us as the bride's mother. Problem is, when we told her we were the groom's friends, she looked exceedingly puzzled at the mention of his name. Definitely not the proud mother-in-law-to-be reaction. It may have been the wrong wedding.<BR/><BR/>V: thanks. Alcohol isn't personally as important to me as tandoori chicken is, but yes, that's another sore point for many of my friends.<BR/><BR/>Feanor: lovely! I enthusiastically propose that all Punjabi weddings include a resident elephant that can be trained to sit on uncles who get too boisterous.<BR/><BR/>Sudha: so THAT'S what they mean by "gille-shikve"Jabberwockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210195396120573794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-80430039431829911282007-12-22T11:22:00.000+05:302007-12-22T11:22:00.000+05:30Speaking of NRI weddings, do also see this earlier...Speaking of NRI weddings, do also see <A HREF="http://jaiarjun.blogspot.com/2005/11/vignettes-from-wedding.html" REL="nofollow">this earlier post</A>.Jabberwockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210195396120573794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-11915873780794178482007-12-22T09:36:00.000+05:302007-12-22T09:36:00.000+05:30So far I had only heardof rabbits checking their w...So far I had only heardof rabbits checking their watches...so, even cats huh?<BR/><BR/>Kshmiris share the no non-veg gila totally, but we make the boy's side serve it for the reception!Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06002754872631420601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-67386263810504569432007-12-22T00:13:00.000+05:302007-12-22T00:13:00.000+05:30Oyyye, a fullfull post on punjoo weddings and ne'e...Oyyye, a fullfull post on punjoo weddings and ne'er a word on gillas? what's a shaadi without a gilla, I say. (mutter mutter, nobody did enough khatirgari, nobody served me more than 25 pooris, the sweet stuff wasn't big/hot/cold/plentiful enough, nobody noticed my deymmand joolry) Oh, I'm sorry, I just realised that the whole "no non-veg" crib was a gigantic gilla itself. <BR/><BR/>Jai kihogayigillai-oye.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-45953709744322564342007-12-21T22:52:00.000+05:302007-12-21T22:52:00.000+05:30Hilarious and wonderfully writtenYou forgot to men...Hilarious and wonderfully written<BR/><BR/>You forgot to mention the absence of alcohol at a Panju wedding and the fact that we robust Panjabis sleep with a bottle of Black Label next to our pillows, too.<BR/><BR/>Long time reader, first time 'commentor'.V.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05020841508611400965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-12839704043422625042007-12-21T22:00:00.000+05:302007-12-21T22:00:00.000+05:30Great post. And of course several hundreds (or is ...Great post. And of course several hundreds (or is it thousands?) of these carnivals take place on the same auspicious day, adding to the chaos on the roads of saaddi Dilli.<BR/>I've attended a wedding where the NRI groom was having such a blast at his own baraat that most of the guests had their dinner and left without even a glimpse of the hopefully happy couple. Now I wonder whom they gave their 'shagun' envelopes to!dipalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-56878484984179401232007-12-21T20:04:00.000+05:302007-12-21T20:04:00.000+05:30:))) I always look forward to these *Punjabi life*...:))) I always look forward to these *Punjabi life* posts of yours, Jai. They elicit the most interesting comments!!!Lakshmihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03935803939491045516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-27447103864852340562007-12-21T15:11:00.000+05:302007-12-21T15:11:00.000+05:30ha! reminds me of the time i was invited to the we...ha! reminds me of the time i was invited to the wedding of a friend's sister. the baraat was about 3 hours late, so to keep the restive crowd festive, the bride's family had organised under one enormous shamiana: a stand-up comedy act, a nonstop pig-out section, a non-stop dance section, and several camels and straggly horses. there was an elephant welcoming guests, until it got restive as well, whereupon we heard an announcement on the PA: <I>shaamiane ke aage park ki gayi laal maruti ke driver, dhyan de: haathi uspe baith rahe hai</I>. yes, those were the days...FĂ«anorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17101113676992105240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-56203576288448852392007-12-21T13:12:00.000+05:302007-12-21T13:12:00.000+05:30we wont god to bless the union and be present ther...<I>we wont god to bless the union and be present there ..so the atmosphere has to be pure ..</I><BR/><BR/>BV: so hypothetically, if someone smuggles chicken tikka or liquor into the venue, the gods will stay away? Just wondering. Because my friends and I have probably defiled loads of weddings that way.<BR/><BR/><I>hope no one invites u to any more weddings.</I><BR/><BR/>Oh, I hope so too. Unfortunately that doesn't look like happening - there are three wedding cards lying on the table awaiting RSVP.Jabberwockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210195396120573794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-14858435471803934442007-12-21T13:00:00.000+05:302007-12-21T13:00:00.000+05:30btw the reason we dont serve meat on wedding day i...btw the reason we dont serve meat on wedding day is because its a religious day ..we wont god to bless the union and be present there ..so the atmosphere has to be pure ..in case u forgot hinduism unlike other religions bans meat eating.. well with u'r poor attitude and complaining hope no one invites u to any more weddings.bvAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-92119497269975678832007-12-21T12:46:00.000+05:302007-12-21T12:46:00.000+05:30Shamya: no one particular wedding, more like an am...Shamya: no one particular wedding, more like an amalgamation of all the terrible ones we've been to (including Tarun's, of course).Jabberwockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210195396120573794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-78236362495114517762007-12-21T12:10:00.000+05:302007-12-21T12:10:00.000+05:30PSV: And who told you that weddings in other parts...PSV: And who told you that weddings in other parts of india start at the exact time 'described' on the card?<BR/><BR/>True. I've been to Punjabi weddings in Calcutta, Bombay and a couple of Punjab as well...these also didn't start on time. So PSV didn't like the take on Punjabi weddings as such, but was nice enough to admit that it's something that doesn't only happen in Delhi.<BR/><BR/>Jai: Whose wedding was it this time?Black Muddy Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15955846722038215253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-4107800267446553722007-12-21T11:38:00.000+05:302007-12-21T11:38:00.000+05:30Poor post. In bad taste.PSV: you're absolutely rig...<I>Poor post. In bad taste.</I><BR/><BR/>PSV: you're absolutely right. Paneer tikka is bad taste.<BR/><BR/><I>Have decided to get rude and ask. Alc? Non-veg? Then give RSVP!</I><BR/><BR/>B'ray: you're still politer than some of my friends who reach the venue, discover there's no alc and then start loudly making a fuss about it (the real purpose, of course, being to embarrass the groom!).<BR/><BR/><I>we actually have reached for weddings even before the tents were put up! (and this was spot on time mentioned on the card!)</I><BR/><BR/>Anon: I make sure to be at least 15 minutes before time for most appointments or meetings. But even a paranoid punctualist like me knows that you're just not supposed to reach a wedding at the time mentioned on the card.<BR/><BR/>However, your revenge was admirable.Jabberwockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210195396120573794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-67084269036477231922007-12-21T10:53:00.000+05:302007-12-21T10:53:00.000+05:30What is the idea here "robust Punjabis, who on nor...What is the idea here "robust Punjabis, who on normal days sleep with large tubs of tandoori chicken next to their pillows, suddenly turn coyly vegetarian on their wedding day"?<BR/>Punjabiz are known to be lavish spenders and it is incorrect to generalize everyone under the same umbrella.<BR/><BR/>Poor post. In bad taste.<BR/><BR/>The idea about going to a wedding is to interact and mingle with people. If that is something too much for some people then itz better for them to eat the tandoori chicken they so much desire at home itself.<BR/><BR/>And who told you that weddings in other parts of india start at the exact time described on the card?Ajj Kaim Singhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05771292712959753275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8204542.post-27477626298934320512007-12-21T00:36:00.000+05:302007-12-21T00:36:00.000+05:30Hahaha...reminds me of the last time I attended a ...Hahaha...reminds me of the last time I attended a non-Bengali wedding. I was supposed to be attending from the bride's side, but no one other than the bride's brother knew me there. As chance would have it, I arrived exactly at the same time as the baraat. As testimony to my Bengali roots, I had worn a decently ornate kurta, while the rest of the men were in suits, except for the groom himself. Some uncle of the bride then mistakenly put some kind of garland around me as I entered and then went red faced later when my friend introduced me as a college friend.ArSENikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09772597502937491090noreply@blogger.com